They're Watching How You Celebrate: A Parent's Guide to Responsible Holiday Hosting

The holiday season brings families and friends together in celebration, creating cherished memories that last a lifetime. As adults, we have a unique opportunity—and responsibility—to model healthy behaviors for the young people in our lives. The choices we make at holiday gatherings send powerful messages about how to celebrate safely and responsibly.

Leading by Example: Why Your Actions Matter

Children and teens are always watching, even when we think they're not paying attention. Research consistently shows that parental attitudes and behaviors around substances are among the strongest predictors of youth substance use. When young people see adults managing celebrations responsibly, they internalize these behaviors as normal and expected.

During the holidays, when alcohol is often present at gatherings, our actions speak louder than any conversation about substance use prevention. By demonstrating moderation, responsible hosting, and safe practices, we teach valuable life lessons that extend far beyond the holiday season.

Creating a Culture of Responsible Celebration

Responsible hosting goes beyond simply providing food and entertainment. It means creating an environment where all guests feel comfortable and safe, regardless of their relationship with alcohol.

1. Offer creative non-alcoholic options. Mocktails, specialty sodas, and seasonal drinks like spiced cider or hot chocolate ensure everyone has something special to enjoy. Here are some ideas.

2. Plan activities that don't center around drinking. Holiday game tournaments, cookie decorating stations, or family talent shows shift the focus from substances to connection and fun. When alcohol is present but not the centerpiece, you demonstrate that celebration and joy come from being together, not from what's in your glass.

3. Designate a responsible adult who will remain sober throughout the event. This person can monitor the gathering, ensure safe transportation for guests, and handle any unexpected situations.

4. Make transportation plans visible and shame-free. Download ride share apps, offer guest rooms, or arrange designated drivers in advance.

Safe Storage: Protecting Curious Minds

The increased foot traffic and excitement of holiday gatherings can create opportunities for young people to access substances or dangerous items they wouldn't normally encounter. Taking proactive steps to secure these items isn't about mistrust—it's about creating a safe environment for everyone.

Alcohol

• Store in locked cabinets or areas inaccessible to minors when not being actively served

• Immediately secure any leftover alcohol after the party rather than leaving it out for cleanup

• Consider using locks on liquor cabinets or storing alcohol in a locked room during gatherings with teens present
  

Cannabis

For those in states where cannabis is legal, the same vigilance applies. Cannabis products, especially edibles that can resemble regular candy or baked goods, pose particular risks during the holidays.

• Store in locked containers and clearly label

• Keep completely separate from regular food items

• Never leave cannabis products in common areas, even temporarily
  

Firearms

• Unload all firearms and secure with locks in a safe or use trigger locks; store ammunition separately in a locked location

• Double-check security before guests arrive and consider moving firearms to a more secure location during large gatherings

• Project ChildSafe offers free safety kits and detailed storage guidelines

Building Traditions of Safety and Joy

The most meaningful holiday traditions often have nothing to do with substances. Consider establishing family traditions that emphasize connection, gratitude, and joy. When we prioritize safety and model responsible behavior, we give young people in our lives invaluable gifts: the knowledge that they are valued and protected, the understanding that joy comes from connection rather than substances, and the skills to navigate their own future celebrations safely.

If the holidays are hard and you need someone to talk to, call or text 988 24/7 to be connected with a trained counselor.